“… be strong, but not rude; be kind, but not weak; be bold, but not bully; be thoughtful, but not lazy; be humble, but not timid; be proud, but not arrogant; have humor, but without folly.” – Jim Rohn
I remember being bullied once at a park. My dad wasn’t around. He was close by with his buddies watching a soccer game. Unfortunately for me, I was on the other side of that field. Behind the bleachers, no where to be easily spotted by him. It was just me and a group of kids — all strangers to me — having a good time. Until one of them decided to pick a fight. Then that one turned in to three. I was surrounded. I really don’t remember what caused it. No doubt, it was for no reason. I guess I appeared to be the weak looking one out of them all.
I was scared. I had no where to run. I was alone and corned. This was a long time ago, so the memory of it is still a bit hazy. But I do remember that this was the first and last time I wanted to be there. And I also remember hearing my dad’s voice coming from behind. “What’s going on!” He asked.
I was saved. I filled him in with what was happening. Then I’ll never forget what he told me. “Well, don’t just stand there. Hit them!” Immediately, with out thinking twice, I ran like a raged bull towards the guy in the middle and drop kicked him. The other two boys where probably shocked by my karate skills.
It was the best feeling ever. Dad had my back. One guy was down and thats all that mattered to me.
I’m sure, I left that scene with a lesson by my father. To fear no one. To survive, even if I’m out numbered, out ranked, or out smarted. His presence there affirmed me. It some how took the courage right out me. It was always there, I just needed the permission to react. I was too afraid to even allow myself.
I thought of this story this past week and how I needed to meditate on this lesson again. I’m a bit to grown up now to drop kick anyone. As much as I would like to do that, the consequences wouldn’t be pretty. But far greater than a kick, I have a voice. And with that, I can do a lot of damage.