Nomophobia is the fear of being out of mobile phone contact. The term, an abbreviation for “no–mobile-phone phobia.”
Too much of something is bad. It could be a sign of addiction. And this seems rather obvious, but to make it clear…let’s talk about phone addiction.
“We think of addiction as being associated with drugs, but what we forget is that the nervous system is a big drug store and there are naturally occurring chemicals called neurotransmitters. These neurotransmitters can be stimulated by things other than drugs.” — Jackie Goldstein, a psychology professor at Samford University
WebMD’s finding on Phone Addiction are impressively sad.
In a study of 1,600 managers and professionals, Leslie Perlow, PhD, the Konosuke Matsushita professor of leadership at the Harvard Business School, found that:
- 70% said they check their smartphone within an hour of getting up.
- 56% check their phone within an hour of going to sleep.
- 48% check over the weekend, including on Friday and Saturday nights.
- 51% check continuously during vacation.
- 44% said they would experience “a great deal of anxiety” if they lost their phone and couldn’t replace it for a week.
Here’s another staggering numbers by The Huffington post.
- 84 percent of respondents said that they could not go a single day without their cellphones.
- 50 percent of Americans sleep with their phone next to them like a teddy bear or a spouse, a number that includes vmore than 80 percent of 18-24 year olds.
- 20 percent of respondents check their phone every 10 minutes.
- 24 percent said they had used text messages to set up a rendezvous with someone they were having an affair with, a number that includes 56 percent of Chinese respondents.
This obviously takes a big toll on relationships and especially in marriage. I recently read a story of a man divorcing his wife for being too addictive to her phone! How can that happen? For a relationship to die because of technology? Whats happening in that small device that’s not happening at home? What’s happening to the addicted?
They can turn us into selfish, non-empathetic individuals who are only worried how many likes their Instagram photo received, or how many times their meme got repinned. We place too much emphasis on our digital lives, and we lose sight of the urgency and beauty of the everyday.
Addiction to the digital world causes destabilization in our relationships. Slowly, the addicted becomes detached from reality and begins to live a fantasy that kills them softly until there’s no inch of human in them.
- become indifferent to the real world and people;
- get attached to the meaningless approval of strangers online;
- seek validity and recognition from people we don’t know;
- fail to see or interact with people we do know;
- lose the connections to the real world and real people;
- depend on the virtual world.
Don’t be victim of this. And if you are? Seek help. It’s ok. Start by talking to someone about it. Survey your self.
Look in to it. Write about it. Share it.