Unplugged

Did you get a chance to read my Phone Addiction post? Nomophobia is a serious thing. Once you dig in to even more and just observe your surroundings — like your family and peers phone habits. It’s scary. It’s even scarier to think that you and I might be victim of it with out even knowing.

A growing percentage text or tweet instead of actually talking to others. — Psychology Today

I’ve made a strong commitment, and it’s extremely difficult now that I’m doing it, to stay unplugged from 6-10 PM while my family is around. Meaning, I would want to dedicate to my wife and daughter my full undivided attention. This doesn’t mean I wont pick up phone calls or text a friend. It means: no surfing the web, talking on the phone, playing with an app, or on the computer writing or making anything unless it’s been approved by the boss ladies. Some days will be an exception of course. Being in a business of media and technology doesn’t really help. People like me tend to believe that the internet needs you.

In the U.S:

  1. Sixty-five percent, or about two in three people, sleep with or next to their smart phones. (Among college students, it’s even higher).
  2. Thirty-four percent admitted to answering their cell phone during intimacy with their partner.
  3. One in five people would rather go without shoes for a week than take a break from their phone.
  4. More than half never switch off their phone.
  5. A full 66 percent of all adults suffer from “nomophobia.”

Number 2. Seriously?

I don’t have Nomophobia or any phone addiction. I cerntainly don’t suffer from #2, I can assure you. But I do notice a strong pattern of too much use of technology. I want to cut some of that. Even in my writing. If I can atleast create story outlines, notes, and ideas on paper that will be great. I’ve seen myself doing this a lot more lately. Even reading physical books (still my favorite form of reading). So scratch the idea of recommending me the latest app clean app. There’s nothing more minimal and simple that plain old white sheet of paper. Right?

After an interpersonal experimentation done by Barbara L. Fredrickson, professor of psychology at the University of North Carolina, she share with us her results on the importance of staying social and physical.

…the more attuned to others you become, the healthier you become, and vice versa. This mutual influence also explains how a lack of positive social contact diminishes people. Your heart’s capacity for friendship also obeys the biological law of “use it or lose it.” If you don’t regularly exercise your ability to connect face to face, you’ll eventually find yourself lacking some of the basic biological capacity to do so… When you share a smile or laugh with someone face to face, a discernible synchrony emerges between you, as your gestures and biochemistries, even your respective neural firings, come to mirror each other. It’s micro-moments like these, in which a wave of good feeling rolls through two brains and bodies at once, that build your capacity to empathize as well as to improve your health. If you don’t regularly exercise this capacity, it withers. Lucky for us, connecting with others does good and feels good, and opportunities to do so abound. (A longitudinal field experiment on the effects of learning skills for cultivating warmer interpersonal connections in daily life).

This is a strong reason why I’m advocating for becoming more local. It’s time to meet people in person. I don’t want to lose the habit. I want to excercise it as much as I can. First in my home, and then in my city.

Have you considered unplugging?

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